Internet goes wild as angry mother-to-be blames bakery for “ruining” gender reveal

A soon-to-be mother is going viral online for her video in which she called out a bakery for allegedly ruining her gender reveal surprise by telling her what color was inside her cake.

In the video, TikTok user “morbidmama7,” who is called “Ariel” in the video, plays a voicemail message left for her by an unnamed bakery about a problem with her cake order as she makes faces. She says that she asked for a cake that would have a raspberry filling if she’s having a child who will be assigned female at birth and a blackberry filling if she’s having a child who will be assigned male at birth.

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In the message, the bakery worker says that the bakery doesn’t make blackberry filling and that they need to “talk about the cake.”

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“Listen to this voicemail I got from the bakery COMPLETELY RUINING MY GENDER REVEAL,” reads the text over the video.

In the caption, Ariel wrote: “imagine paying $$, walking into a baker with a sealed envelope from a doctor, currating [sic] a whole special, intimate moment with you & your partner… just to have some random, careless woman ruin it with a single voicemail… thaaaanks… if my eyes are red it’s cause I’ve been crying all morning.”

@morbidmama7

imagine paying $$, walking into the bakery with a sealed envelope from a doctor, currating a whole special, intimate moment with you & your partner… just to have some random, careless woman ruin it with a single voicemail… thaaaanks… if my eyes are red it’s cause I’ve been crying all morning 🖤🖤 #genderrevealfail #genderreveal #emotions #pregnant #altmom

♬ original sound – ⋇⋆ 𝔐𝔬𝔯𝔟𝔦𝔡 𝔐𝔞𝔪𝔞 ⋆⋇

In the comments on TikTok, people asked why she didn’t have a friend or family member handling this to protect her from knowing the secret ahead of the gender reveal. “Why didn’t you have a gender keeper,” one of the top comments asked.

“her face expression is painfully very millenial,” someone else said.

Others took her side: “No because why couldn’t she just say, ‘can you give us a call about your order?'”

Another suggested she cancel the cake order and tell the bakery, “I actually don’t need the cake anymore because you ruined the surprise.”

The video was posted to X, where people were decidedly more critical of Ariel, saying that this isn’t a real problem, that gender reveal parties are uncouth, that the bakery worker was just doing her job, and even that blackberry and raspberry filling look very similar so there wouldn’t have been much of a reveal.

Why is it not surprising that someone self-indulgent enough to have a "gender reveal party" gets pissy that someone nice and professional, just doing their job, can't accommodate her every demand?

— Mrs. Betty Bowers (@BettyBowers) October 17, 2024

Better have an abortion I guess.

— Czarina (@fishontherun2) October 16, 2024

Anger is misplaced. Lady is doing her job. She prob assumed it was a friend or family member who placed the order. You need support from others to throw a gender reveal without a hitch. Someone else should’ve done the cake without parents involved. Mom shouldn’t be mad at the…

— badina (@1futhermucker) October 15, 2024

No one has mentioned that she would’ve ruined her own gender reveal anyways by not knowing blackberry and raspberry fillings are basically the same color. https://t.co/DTSIxhNYkC pic.twitter.com/utEm0Ml3rL

— anna 🇵🇸🔻 (@nuevaorIeans) October 17, 2024

You ever just look at someone and instantly know they are insufferable to servers? https://t.co/hJyfBI23a7

— spooky scary skeletoph 🇵🇸 (@Tophurrr) October 17, 2024

THE BAKERY FUCKED UP MY FETAL GENITAL PARTY https://t.co/aIHBg1P8m8

— NillaHo (@vanillahorilla) October 16, 2024

Poor thing. Can't have the baby now.

— The Man from Taured (@TheGigconomist) October 16, 2024

i couldnt imagine something less important if i tried.

— sarah. (@ProgSnog) October 15, 2024

So instead of leaving someone else’s number for cake updates ….she left her own number and blamed the bakery for ruining her gender reveal when it was actually her own poor planning ? Okay

— Nova (@NomiMalone202) October 15, 2024

all bakeries should do this even if they have the ingredients in stock

— 💪✝️🤳 Jesus Needs a Minute (@e_p82) October 17, 2024

Need to start a bakery. Gonna make it my life's work to ruin as many gender reveal parties as possible.

— Mark (@sudden_damage) October 17, 2024

I’m so tired of gender reveals. Just f—g let ppl know.

— Ariel Gonzalez (@ArielGonzalez_1) October 16, 2024

Kindof weird that a random baker would know the gender of your child before you do.

— Ian Fisch – Creative Director on Kingmakers (@Ian_Fisch) October 16, 2024

I hope the baby doesn't inherit their mother's stupid facial mugging.

— 8-ʙɪᴛ (gone) (@8BitProletariat) October 17, 2024

Just tell people the sex of the baby. Jesus Christ

— Oliver VanDervoort (@itmeolliev) October 16, 2024

Back on TikTok, Ariel posted a video of the gender reveal with her boyfriend, saying that she already knew what was inside of the cake.

@morbidmama7

this is what I sent my family for my gender reveal after the baker completely ruined it for us 🖤🖤🖤 #pregnant #altmom #genderreveal #genderrevealfail

♬ original sound – ⋇⋆ 𝔐𝔬𝔯𝔟𝔦𝔡 𝔐𝔞𝔪𝔞 ⋆⋇

She also posted a video highlighting one of the comments that was on her side and thanked her followers for supporting her.

@morbidmama7

Replying to @sylviapurple45 thank God that’s not the real name omg 😳

♬ original sound – ⋇⋆ 𝔐𝔬𝔯𝔟𝔦𝔡 𝔐𝔞𝔪𝔞 ⋆⋇

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